What Makes for a Great Parent?

A Great Parent:

Shows a child unconditional love.
Is there.
Does not expect the child to be the parent, and does not inflict own needs on the child at the expense of the child's needs.
Does not subtly sabotage a child's efforts to learn, mature and excel.
Allows a child to be less than perfect. Forgives mistakes, and teaches a child how to forgive him or herself. Acknowledges own mistakes and apologizes for them.
Does not give up on a child or teen.
Loves and accepts a child who walks a different path.
Is not threatened by a child's independence, happiness, dreams, individuality, achievements, or occasional rebellion.
Shows a child consistent and loving discipline.
Is supportive, excited and interested in what the child is doing (and wants to do).
Teaches a child how to be angry or frustrated in helpful, constructive ways.
Teaches a child how to communicate in constructive, loving ways.
Teaches a child how to deal with fear.
Knows that the child's safety and well-being comes first. Does hard things if it will help the family.
Stands up for a child. Protects the child from dangerous and harmful situations or people.
Is willing to learn from others -- including the child.
Teaches a child how to protect and take care of him or herself (financially, physically, emotionally).
Sets a good example in life, love, happiness, morality, friendships and daily habits.
Shows a spouse or partner unconditional (but not self-abusive) love -- and lets the child see it.
Allows a child to dream big dreams.
Takes care of self.
Makes fun and laughter regular daily activities.
Teaches a child how to see the lighter side of life.
Teaches a child that it's OK to be happy, even if someone else isn't.
Teaches a child to hope, and also to trust in him or herself.
Keeps all promises to a child.
Makes all the necessary (and some unnecessary) personal sacrifices.
Teaches a child how to resolve problems, and how to celebrate triumphs.
Praises child frequently and sincerely.
Is proud of child, and tells child so.
Encourages good behavior and discourages bad behavior. Listens to child's explanation, and allows child to suffer (non-hurtful) consequences.
Is a good listener.
Offers advice without destructive criticism.
Discusses things with child honestly and openly. Allows child to disagree in age-appropriate ways.
Knows when to let go of a situation that can't be resolved.
Teaches a child how to be positive and enthusiastic.
Knows when to let a child become an adult.
Doesn't ever stop trying to become a better parent.

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The proper citation is: Rogers, L. (n.d.) "What Makes for a Great Parent?" Retrieved (date) from the Safer Child, Inc. Web site: http://www.saferchild.org/what.htm